By ignoring them, you are feeding them.
A typical night in the Tatro house. The kids are finally asleep, the kitchen is clean (thank you hubby) , the nighttime-settled down routines start to unfold. Sometimes we each want to do our own thing - taking a moment for ourselves to decompress, other times - we sit and chat about all things life. Mostly? A combination of spending way to much time finding a movie that we want to watch, or me working on my graduate work while he games.
Last night, as I sat in bed with my lap desk working away on my paper - hitting the submit button with a huge sigh of relief - let the weekend begin. My husband came in and put on a YouTube video he had mentioned earlier in the week that he knew I'd be into (I've posted at the bottom). If you haven't heard of Jordan Peterson, Clinical Psychologist - you will want to check out his work, trust me.
The theme of the video we watched was all about confronting your dragons, if you want the gold.
"That which you most need will be found where you least want to look." - Carl Jung
When you spend years running away from the dragons, they get stronger - and even further locked away. Seeping into all areas of your life - powerful avoidance manifests into an external personality that projects your pain.
This thing called life is certainly interesting. Yes - it's tough, but so are you. If you keep ignoring the stuff that you know you need to work on, it will control you and you will remain stuck. You will repeat the lessons over and over again with even more intense consequences each round.